say what you want
It seems so obvious - if I want a box of eggs, I have to find the right shop and go in and ask for a box of eggs. If I don't ask, I don't get.
Why is it, then, that we find it so easy to leave it up to the universe to guess what we really want? If we want someone to come and keep us company, we have to ask - rather than dropping hints. If we want someone to help publish a book of poems and photos, we have to find someone who knows what to do and then negotiate a support contract (fancy words for agreeing who does what and when).
I just looked back at a plan I wrote down in March 2005 and sat wondering why it hadn't happened. I'd told my friends what I wanted to achieve - I'd even said what help I was looking for. Looking back, I can see I said it to a group, all of whom thought someone else would pick up the ball. It's taken a long time to realise I had to ask specific people to help on explicit things before the bigger picture would emerge.
Of that group, the one person who has really made a success (from my perspective) is the one who went and spoke to individual friends and asked for specific bits of help. She has used every tool she can get her hands on - including facebook and who knows what else. And I'd bet she still feels she has a long way to go.
Time for bed, said Zebedee.
Why is it, then, that we find it so easy to leave it up to the universe to guess what we really want? If we want someone to come and keep us company, we have to ask - rather than dropping hints. If we want someone to help publish a book of poems and photos, we have to find someone who knows what to do and then negotiate a support contract (fancy words for agreeing who does what and when).
I just looked back at a plan I wrote down in March 2005 and sat wondering why it hadn't happened. I'd told my friends what I wanted to achieve - I'd even said what help I was looking for. Looking back, I can see I said it to a group, all of whom thought someone else would pick up the ball. It's taken a long time to realise I had to ask specific people to help on explicit things before the bigger picture would emerge.
Of that group, the one person who has really made a success (from my perspective) is the one who went and spoke to individual friends and asked for specific bits of help. She has used every tool she can get her hands on - including facebook and who knows what else. And I'd bet she still feels she has a long way to go.
Time for bed, said Zebedee.
posted by Simon | 11:27 pm
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